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The Beck Diet Solution: Going Back to What Works

On July 2, 2012 I made one of the best decisions of my life.  These three pictures say it all:


In May I blogged about defying those betting on you to regain the weight.  Well, the struggle is real.  I have slipped back into old habits lately.  But it's time to go back to what works: The Beck Diet Solution.

I made the mistake of kidding myself that I didn't always have to stay vigilant.  If you manage to lose weight, keeping that weight off is to be a lifelong job.  As author Judith Beck says, that's not fair, but you have to learn to say "oh well."  We're conditioned to demand fairness and justice in this country especially.  But one of the genius points that cognitive behavioral therapy makes is that fairness is a myth.  Expecting things to always be fair in life is to set ourselves up for failure.  And what may be justice to one person may be an injustice to another - like when your Aunt Ida beats my Aunt Betty Sue in the county fair blueberry pie contest.

Weight loss maintenance is hard.  It is so easy to kid yourself and think you don't have to watch what you eat anymore, that you can just eat what everybody else is eating, that you have it made and can just coast now.  No - what you did to lose weight, you have to do every day for the rest of your life.  Maybe with some adjustments, not as restrictive, but the same concepts nonetheless.  If only I could get that into my thick skull this time.

So I am beginning another 42-day Beck round.  Please let me know if you would like to join me, or if you have any questions about what the Beck program is all about.  If you follow the program, it can literally transform your relationship with food, put you back in control, and break the addictions.  Beck even teaches you how to approach any problem in your life, not just food and weight.  So here I go.  For years I never made my weight loss journey public and just decided to go it alone.  Shame was a big part of it.  But when it comes to these struggles I am not special.  I'm just like millions of other people out there.  So if you can learn from my struggles, or want to join me in my journey, you're more than welcome.




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