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“We are conditioned to look
for justice in life and when it doesn’t appear, we tend to feel anger, anxiety
or frustration. Actually, it would be
equally productive to search for the fountain of youth, or some such myth. Justice does not exist. It never has, and it never will. The world is simply not put together that
way. Robins eat worms. That’s not fair to the worms…You have only to
look at nature to realize that there is no justice in the world. Tornadoes, floods, tidal waves, droughts are
all unfair.”
Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, Your
Erroneous Zones (New York: Avon Books, 1977), p. 173.
Yet many of us did grow up
expecting, to some extent, that life should be fair and these beliefs can’t be
unlearned overnight. To help counter the
unfairness syndrome, BDS focuses here today and gives us some things to think
about when we’re bemoaning how unfair it is that we can’t eat whatever we want:
1.
Go back to your why’s. At least one fair aspect of being human is
that we have free will, and most likely we have freely chosen to lose
weight. We could just as freely choose
to stop and eat whatever we want for the rest of our lives. But do we want to be the weight that comes
with that? Or do we want to stick with our
weight loss steps? The choice is up to
us.
2.
How many advantages do you have that other
people don’t? Maybe you have an
abundance of friends and family, pets, special talent, money, the freedom to
organize your day however you’d like, a beautiful garden, house, and so
on. Now think about all those people in
the world who don’t have what you have.
It’s unfair they don’t have all the wonderful things you do – but life
is not fair.
3.
Create a Response Card. Write down a few helpful responses to the STs
of unfairness and pull it out whenever thoughts of unfairness tempt you to eat.
Another thing to remember – the
“fair” way we were eating before, that caused us to gain weight, wasn’t normal
and healthy. Wouldn’t it be much more
fair to ourselves to eat in a healthful way, lose weight and reach our goals?
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