Day 36 - Beck Diet Solution, BELIEVE IT

As we embark on the final seven days of BDS training, how do we feel about our progress so far? Maybe you have lost weight, but are having STs like “This isn’t me…I’m just not someone who can really lose weight…the weight will come back…this is just a fluke…if I get happy about my progress I’ll jinx myself…”

Wake up and smell the skinny vanilla latte – this is for real! The skills and techniques you’ve learned, the skinnier mindset you’re learning, the weight you’ve lost – They Are Not Flukes! None of your progress happened by magic – it is all because of the hard work you’ve put in, applying new mindsets, exercising new techniques, deciding what’s in your best interest to eat and not eat, pushing your body to new fitness levels... BELIEVE IT.

If you need some convincing, look back at how you were before you learned any of these techniques. How often did you eat standing up/eat mindlessly/eat too quickly/plan out your meals/track every single thing you ate/pig out for emotional reasons/throw in the towel after making one slip/etc., etc.

Now make a new card, the Believe It! Card. Your card, like another successful weight loser, might read like this:

“I’m losing weight because I’ve learned how. I now know:

1. What I have to do (plan my eating, eat slowly while sitting down, use anti-craving strategies)

2. What I have to remind myself (hunger and cravings are never emergencies, NO CHOICE, Oh well)

3. How to motivate myself (get support, read my Advantages Response Card, give myself credit every day)

4. How to keep honest (report my weight change to my diet coach weekly)”

You – yes YOU – got this far because your hard work. This is not resting on your laurels – this is acknowledging a new reality, the reality of your transitioning into a thin mindset and body. You’re not jinxing yourself or being lulled into a false sense of security, because you have daily checklists that you will continue to follow for a long time, that will help remind you of what you have to do, what you have to remind yourself, how to motivate yourself, and how to keep honest.

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